Things That Are Important To Me.
I am a copywriter at an advertising agency and I love my job.
I love the people I work with. I love the new agency that I am at. I feel lucky that this is my profession. Regardless, I have nearly doubled my work hours which, is taking some adjustment.
It has become clear, quickly that I need to make time for the things that are important to me or else a burn out is in my near future. And with little time, I had to dig deep to find the absolute non-negotiables.
Real quick: have you ever taken that love language quiz? It's interesting and a majority of the time, rings true. My love language is quality time. I don't need quantity, just quality—this is perfect because I don't have copious amounts of time.
I've narrowed down "quality time" in to three things:
1. SITTING DOWN FOR A MEAL.
A good conversation is one of my favorite forms of quality time, but even more so—a good conversation over good food. Sitting down for a meal is huge for me. I love the opportunity to sit across from people I love, with no other agenda then to be with each other and eat, (preferably at a vegan restaurant I picked out.)
For EXAMPLE, I had to be in the office on Saturday morning, but I got up early to grab breakfast with Taylor (cousin), Luke (boyfriend) and Chastity (friend). I requested we went to one of my favorite restaurants, Butchers Daughter. The iced coffee, french toast and spicy kale salad paired with Taylor's typical, "I'm just so happy to be here" and periodically resting my head on Luke's shoulder—made going in to work 1005x easier.
Also, sitting down for my smoothie in the morning is sacred time. I will always make enough time to start my day that way.
2. Not writing
After work, my "me time" used to be writing for TBH. Now, after writing for 12 hours straight, I'm not inspired to pull out my computer again and write for another 3-4 hours. The internal battle here, is that I love writing personally and I don't want that to be sacrificed. So how do I make time for it in a healthy way?
I start with the things that aren't writing: walking and pampering.
Walking in NYC is free therapy. It immediately takes you out of whatever you're thinking about and gets you present to the abundance of life around you. Second to walking—a tub and/or a face mask. The tub detoxes and relaxes me while, the face mask makes me feel like I have my shit together. All important things.
Then I get a pen and paper and write a list of topics I'm inspired by. If nothing comes, I remind myself to be patient, read, play the guitar, say a prayer and go to sleep.
3. MY space
This may not seem like "quality time," but when my space is quality, my time in it is as well.
This has been apparent to me since my parents started taking me to ADHD specialists, who made a big deal about this. I used to have to take exams in the "ADHD room" where there were no distractions. I've gotten better about distractions, but never the less, the space I'm in needs to be quality.
It doesn't take much, just a few things that inspire me (could be a perfect spot to put a pen) or things that feel very me (a small crystal and/or succulent.) I have always loved creating my space, whether it was the way my name tag looked on my desk in elementary school, or my locker in high school, or my desk at current office—they all have one thing that only really means something to me. It's the little things.
The most important space though is the sanctuary I call my room. If this is not in order, my life isn't. Always has been that way, I presume always will. It only takes three things really: Laundry put away, clean bathroom counter tops and a candle.
I've come to the conclusion that you don't need more time to have work life balance, you just need to have the right balance of whats important to you at the right time.