Did you make a f*cking list?

I love making lists.  

The first time a list really solved my problem was when my best friend and I (eight years old) couldn't decide what we wanted to do that day. So we made up, "The Something Game." The game went like this: "write down a list of things we could do today." Then we would cross reference our lists and play rock paper scissors for the final decision. Almost always, we ended up pretending to be dogs.

The point is...I’ve been making lists to solve problems for a long time. And here are some to solve yours!


I call this: "There's a list for that." 

If you're overwhelmed and stressed:

Make a to-do list of what you need to get done. The best part about a to-do list is that crossing things off the list are a physical representation of you having your shit together. 

It's important to note that a to-do list can cause a reverse reaction which is, "look at all of this stuff I'm never going to get done, I'm doomed!!!!" Don't panic. 

Start by prioritizing time sensitive things (ex. get a plane ticket) and deprioritizing things that have the least consequence (ex. buy new shoes.)  

Important: To-do lists are never meant to be done all at once. Thank the good lord for that. DO ONE THING AT A TIME. I can not put that in caps anymore clearly. 

If decisions are hard:

Make a pros & cons list. Caveat here—some things are not that hard to decide you're just thinking about it too much.

Use your best judgment here of course, but when in doubt—more cons, it's a no. More pros, it's a yes. 

Welcome to an easier world.

If you're feeling down:

Write a gratitude list. They are a simple reminder of the abundance you already have and an opportunity to gain new perspective. Essentially, find the good in the bad. Example: Work is hard but, "I'm grateful I get to do something creative for a living." These lists are scientifically proven to help change your mood. So.

If the future feels intangible:

Create a goal list. This kind of list is great for those big lofty dreams you talk about, but take little action to achieve. Examples: Start a business or meet Beyonce. A goal list takes away the pressure of having all of your dreams happen right now, while not letting them stray too far from the future. 

Make a 6 month, 1 year and 5 year list of goals. (You can vary the time frame however you feel fit and remember that you're not married to this—your goals may change.)

When writing this list, remember:

  1. Be optimistic in these lists—write exactly what you want and how you want it. 
  2. Look at it often
  3. Ask yourself if your doing anything to get closer to your goals.
  4. Take action accordingly 

(did you see that list I just made there?) 


If anything, I just gave you a great excuse to buy a new notebook and if you like school supplies as much as I do, high-five. 

If you're not sold on my list making that's ok. Eventually you'll run up agains the same problem and I invite you to ask yourself what I ask all of my friends, 

"Did you make a f*cking list?"